It\u2019s the question I\u2019m asked most often.
When folks see some of the medical play we do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And I understand it. Mostly it comes from a place of curiosity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But what people don\u2019t fully understand when they\u2019re asking that, is that they\u2019re also making a lot of declarations with that simple question. They\u2019re implying that my scars are inherently bad.
And what they seem to often be really asking is \u201chow can I do that thing you do without scarring?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And the answer is,
You probably can\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You see,
Good things, like this, they tend to leave a mark behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And I know that most people view scars as negative or something to avoid. And I get it. The world thinks that way. They look at your wrinkles and lines and spots and scars and tell you how to fix them. They give you filters and makeup and clothes to hide or fix every flaw.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They tell you that your imperfections make you less beautiful.
They tell you that your wrinkles scream your age.
They tell you that your scars show all of your weaknesses. How you failed. How you\u2019re not enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But I guess\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I just don\u2019t agree anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I think the marks on my body show me how strong I am. Every scar he leaves is a message to me. Reminding me that I am powerful. That my skin bends but I do not break.
They tell the stories of my life. Full of adventures and heartbreak and longing and lust and love and triumphs and fighting and growth and change and wisdom and courage and they show me who I am. They show me how strong I am. And how far I’ve come. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
My stories don\u2019t make me weaker. My wrinkles don’t scream anything but wisdom. My stretch marks don\u2019t hide my beauty. My scars don\u2019t make me less.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For a long time I used to try and placate people when they\u2019d ask.
I\u2019d tell them how they could \u201cavoid\u201d scarring or which needles tend to scar less, or how they could hide the marks or make them less apparent. I was maybe embarrassed of my real answer. Like I was wrong to think different than them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But now?
When someone asks me \u201cbut does it scar?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I will simply say \u201cI hope so.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n“I want to look like I was never afraid to let the world take me by the hand and show me what it\u2019s made of. I want to leave this place knowing I did something with my body other than trying to make it look perfect.\u201d<\/p>\nRupi Kaur<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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